In this life as a new mom I have created some bad habits that I am now kicking myself in the behind for. This is my first go round at this so I am naturally going to make mistakes. (If you don’t make mistakes you are a God/Goddess and I want to meet you) IF we ever have more children then I hope I have learned from these mistakes and won’t repeat them. Will I make new ones? Sure. I am human!!
Co-sleeping. The number one bad habit I have created. My son has slept in bed with us since the day we brought him home from the hospital and has not slept in his own bed… ever! Actually, he has taken a few 30 minute to an hour naps in there. This is a major “my bad” on my part. When we lived in California we didn’t have a crib. It was here in Missouri waiting on us since we were planning on moving back before I had the baby, until our plans were changed. Since we were only going to be a month without we didn’t bother with buying another crib. Well when we did get to Missouri I couldn’t bring myself to put him in his crib. I didn’t think he should have to sleep in a room by himself when we didn’t sleep by ourselves. It seriously made me want to cry just thinking about it. He is just a little helpless baby. Bad decision!! A couple months ago I had my husband take the crib apart and out of the nursery and set it up in our bedroom next to my side of the bed. I was going to make the transition from our bed and then eventually from our room. Baby boy refuses to sleep in the crib. As soon as his head hits the mattress he is up and cries until I get him out. Which brings me to the next bad habit…
I couldn’t stand to let my baby cry the first 6 months of his life. I thought he was too young to be “ignored” when he was crying so I would pick him up after only a minute (if that) of crying. My husband would tell me to let him cry it out and I always responded with “he is too young to lay there and cry.” Sorry hubby! Now if we try to leave him be and let him cry I feel terrible and eventually pick him up. And he does cry until I pick him up, no matter how long I wait. It breaks my heart :( So I just keep making this one worse on all of us.
Since I have always picked him up when he is crying and always held him when he wanted to be held, he is attached to my hip. (leg, arm, and all other parts of my body) I literally cannot walk into the other room without the sound of little hands and knees slapping the ground while he crawls behind me. And when I stop walking he is pulling up on my legs. I don’t think about it anymore and just pick him up out of habit. I always think to myself, “today is the day I will not pick him up.” And then I hear crying and the next thing I know I am holding my son. One day....
Feeding him in bed/to sleep. This one is right up there with co-sleeping. When he was about a month old my son went through a growth spurt and was eating constantly. To the point that I wanted to cry because I couldn’t even put him down. Since I breastfeed I took him to bed and we stayed there basically all day for a couple days while he went through this spurt. I laid down with him next to me and fed him. He would unlatch and go to sleep when he was finished. Wow, easy enough! This was the only time I got to sleep during this time so I continued to do it. I didn’t think of the consequences… We have done this ever since (I know, bad mommy) and he will not go to sleep without me. On a rare occasion he will go to sleep in his swing or when someone rocks or bounces him, but when he is ready for bed he will not go to sleep without breastfeeding. It makes it impossible to have an evening out with the hubby. My mom babysat for us overnight and he fought sleep and cried allll night. She didn’t sleep that night… Poor Grams :(
Now, I am trying to figure out a way to break these habits. I want to stop breastfeeding when baby boy is a year old but in order to break him of that I have to break him of eating to go to sleep. I also have to break him of eating to go to sleep for him to ever sleep in his crib, which means I have to learn to let him “cry it out” and not pick him up. It’s a neverending circle of bad habits that I have to learn how to break him of. We will eventually learn together!